Friday, January 28, 2011

On Domesticity

I stayed home from work on Wednesday due to snow.  Well, that's not entirely true.  I tried to go to work, but I panicked halfway there and turned around.  It took me 40 minutes to drive what usually takes me 15 minutes.  But anyway, the important thing is that I spent the day at home.  I tried to convince Chris to stay home with me, but he was already leaving by the time I called to let him know I was coming back home.  Also, he's a lot more manly (by which I mean willing to drive in the snow) than I am.

So I arrived home at 8:30 to an empty house and a long day with no plans.  I was a little terrified, to be honest.  I do not like to be alone and I do not deal well with unscheduled time.  What would I do all day?  Well, let me tell you.  First I had breakfast (cinnamon toast with hot chocolate - traditional snow day food) while I watched a few episodes of Dexter.  Then I straightened up the house, changed the cat litter, folded laundry, organized my closet, watched a few more episodes of Dexter, and made dinner.  It was a very relaxing, productive day.  So this is the life of a housewife...

I have always felt that housewifery must be the worst, most soul-crushing thing in the world.  Sitting at home all day with nothing to do except catering to your man's needs.  Ugh.  But now that I have experienced (a very tiny taste of ) it, I am re-evaluating my feelings.  Housework, it turns out, is not nearly so awful and time-consuming if you keep up with it.  I have noticed this just from the implementation of a chore calendar.  So imagine how much easier it would be if I had whole entire days to while away at it.  And it is even more enjoyable if you can watch tv or look at the internet between tasks rather than just trying to cram it all into the few minutes you have to yourself after working all day.  I can see how this could be appealing.

Of course, none of this affects the major problem I have with housewifery as a career - you're not making any money.  I know that as a housewife you are generally pretty dependent upon your husband to support you, and that's all very well and good.  Until, that is, he grows tired of you or loses his job or any number of other things that can cause a husband to stop paying for you to sit at home and watch tv/clean all day.  Look, I know this is pretty offensive to a lot of housewives.  And I know that in lots of situations it all works out very well.  But I, as a rule, try not to take anything for granted.  I'm not really interested in putting myself at the financial mercy of another person, it's just not my way.  You might call me a pessimist, but I prefer to think of myself as a realist.  You just never know.

So if I was ever going to be a housewife, I think I'd probably have to also be working from home in some capacity.  Something easy to which I wouldn't have to dedicate much time, so I would still have plenty of free hours to lounge about.

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